March 2014

So, today I turned 35. I don’t normally ponder birthdays and am not particularly a big ‘birthday’ kind of person but this one seems worth stopping by a bit. Half way to the big 4-0 and five away from 30 when I thought I’d have life all figured out. I was wrong! The learning never stops. So in an ‘outside-in’ world that relishes hiding one’s actual age I find myself quite blessed that I get to grow a year older, hopefully wiser, and build another year’s worth of memories.

The last twelve months have been a real journey. More so, a journey of self-discovery and slowing down. I would say the last four months in particular were the most profound as that’s coincidentally when I started learning about the Three Principles behind our experience of life. I gradually stopped caring so much about the ‘stuff’ I’d been preoccupied with caring about for the last thirty odd years and just started appreciating being here. I started to get glimmers of clarity. Even though there was so much more going on around me I found myself slowing down and being more mindful. The ‘stuff’ in all aspects of my life stopped being so important. The relationships were. The connections were. My presence was. Living more in the moment and fretting less about what the future may or may not hold. Finding the joy in simple everyday moments. Learning to trust that we are OK no matter what. We have all the resources we need. What a relief to know we don’t need to figure it all out. Life just is.

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Life Just Is.

March 5, 2014

My first post of 2014 and it’s March already. Two months down, ten to go. They just flew by. Some of those days were more memorable than others. Some were just a blur. What I realize now is they just were. Life just was. Passing as it does.

As I look back on the latter part of 2013 and the stress and anxiety I was facing and now at the first few months of 2014 and the calmer, mellower take I have on life I see that it’s not what’s “out there” that has changed. My perceived stressful, annoying, frustrating, [insert adjective] “circumstances” haven’t changed. Everything is still pretty much the same; but completely different at the same time.

So what changed? I started to actually see where my experience of life was coming from. It wasn’t the external circumstances, events, people, or situations I was dealing with. It was always and has always been from within. Life, the world, reality (whatever that is) just is. We ‘see’ and feel our own version of reality based on what we’re thinking in the moment. We’ve all been given a miraculous ability to think. I hadn’t really tuned in to that before. The fact that we can think. Yes, yes we think I hear you say, so what? This means our feelings, emotions, mental state, stress, anxiety – you name it – is only ever a product of our thinking in that very moment. Am I losing you now, OK good we’re getting somewhere!

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