Looking Back To Look Forward

December 18, 2012

It’s that time of the year again when everyone starts reflecting on the last 12 months. We’re less than a couple of weeks away from 2013 and the countdown is starting. Reflecting on the highs and lows. The “accomplishments”. The goal lists ticked off. At the same time it’s been a few days since the news of a tragic and gruesome shooting of innocent school children that has taken the world by storm. Yet another shooting I think. My heart breaks as I look at my  14-month old precious T who is starting to take her first steps and I just weep. I look at her and think how blessed and grateful I am. I think of all the grief stricken parents whose hearts are bleeding with pain over their loss. I think of all the lost lives across the war torn landscapes throughout this year. I take a deep breath and console myself that those innocent souls are now in the Creator’s hands. Safe. At peace. Somehow this news is sobering and puts everything else in perspective.

I sit there and try to think of the key accomplishments of the last 12 months and none of it really comes close to seeing my baby girl take her first steps. As cliched as it may be my heart is captured by this tiny person and everything I do revolves around her. I ponder on some career decisions I’ve made during the last 12 months that may not seem to make sense to others but make perfect sense to me. As a parent you learn to make decisions that are right in your heart. You learn to trust your gut.

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I was recently reading an article entitled “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All”. The opening lines go something like this:

“It’s time to stop fooling ourselves, says a woman who left a position of power: the women who have managed to be both mothers and top professionals are superhuman, rich, or self-employed.”

I read these lines and stop to reflect. It’s like someone else was voicing what I was thinking but haven’t had the courage to say. Ever since having Baby T almost 9 months ago I have been questioning my decision to return to work. Now, let’s reframe a bit, we were in a situation where I more or less had to go back to work. Being an entrepreneur’s wife meant one of us had to have the stable 9-5 including medical insurance and benefits. Fun!

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Finally. Over a year in the making and On The Career Couch is now live! I want to take this opportunity to welcome you and thank you for stopping by. What a year this has been. My biggest and most challenging ‘project’ yet has been Baby T’s arrival last October. She is truly my world. Little Miss T has our household wrapped around her tiny fingers so much so that Mama has had to put off her extra-curricular activities for the longest time (ie this blog!). On that note it feels so good to be back to writing, sharing and learning from others.

Now that I’m back expect to hear me rambling from time to time on something I’ve been reading about, podcasts or interviews I’ve listened to, or workplace stories I’ve heard about or had the pleasure of experiencing first hand: the good, bad and ugly. I’ll be discussing dysfunction and delirium in the workplace and then trying to make sense of it all looking at how all of these experiences shape our careers. I am a very passionate advocate of bringing humanity back to our workplaces and you’ll see that theme a lot in my writing. Of course not forgetting to link Baby T into the mix and how blissfully tangled up my world is these days. I’ve come to realize there really is no work/life balance. It is more a matter of integrating all the different facets of our daily existence and being fully present in each area and in my world that means juggling a full time job with full time mama-hood which is both an extreme joy and a massive challenge in its own. I am glad to be back. Enjoy the ride!